Decreasing Sexual Anxiety & Increasing Pleasure For Women – Lisa Thomas

Steps to Progressive De-sensitization for Treatment of Sexual Anxiety, Sexual Aversion, Lack of Pleasure & Orgasm, and Sexual Pain for Women

Many clients I see privately for SexTherapy in my office suffer from sexual anxiety, decreased arousal, lack of orgasm during intimacy or sexual pain. This is my go to treatment plan for couples looking to increase the woman’s please and decrease her anxiety during intimacy.

One of the oldest treatment methods in Sex Therapy is a practice called Sensate Focus.

Sensate Focus aims to decrease anxiety through physical touch that gradually turns into sexual touch.  It allows the receiver to feel like they are in control of the touch by providing feedback to their partner who is touching them as well as giving them the choice of how quickly they want to progress with each step.

Instructions For Sensate Focus to Decrease Anxiety & Increase pleasure of the Female Partner: (Works for Heterosexual and Lesbian Couples)

Start wherever feels comfortable.  Add only one step at a time.  Aim to start with two 20-minute sessions per week per step and gradually lengthen towards four 40-45 minute sessions as you increase physical activities.  A step is completed when both partners say they feel comfortable with it and are ready to move on to the next step.  On average, each step should be practiced 2-6 times with the more sexual steps being practiced possible a bit more.

The goal is to feel relaxed and calm during each step.  Make sure you set an ambiance in the room by playing music or dimming the lights.  You can wear light clothing when you begin the steps and then graduate to losing it by the time intercourse is nearing.

Step 1)        Holding hands

Step 2)        Hugging

Step 3)        Hugging and caressing non-sexual body parts with clothes on while on couch

Step 4)        Hugging and caressing non-sexual body parts with clothes on laying down in a bed (massage)

Step 5)        Kissing.  If this does not feel comfortable at this time, it can be skipped and moved later to when they is feeling more comfortable and are more aroused.

Step 6)        Touching breasts on top of clothes

Step 7)        Removing shirts and touching breasts on top of bra

Step 8)        Caressing breasts

Step 9)        Touching female genitals on top of clothing

Step 10)     Touching outside area of female genitals

Step 11)     Inserting one finger into vagina

Step 12)     Inserting two fingers into vagina

Step 13)     Optional step: Oral sex on female partner.  This is not essential, but can be added to increase pleasure and enjoyment.

Step 14)     Vaginal penetratation

Note: Pleasure both manually and orally on male partner is optional around stages 10-14, as feels comfortable for them both.

Lisa’s Rule of Thumb for Success

Client during the exercises is:

1)   Relaxed

2)   In Control

3)   Aroused (in early steps, pleasant feelings)



Akufo-Addo administration committed to Muslim community – Dr. Bawumia

Vice President, Dr. Mahamadu Bawumia says the Akufo-Addo administration will do all it can to uplift the living standard of Muslims in the country.

Dr. Bawumia made reference to the implementation of programmes as well as proposed policies that will see the transformation of Muslim communities.

Among these programmes are the $50 million Zongo Development fund, and the campaign promise to make Arabic an examinable subject in Junior and Senior High Schools, as well as the creation of the Ministry of Zongos and Inner City Development, to attend to the developmental needs of Zongo communities.

Speaking at the Muslim Achievers Awards on Friday, Dr. Bawumia said, “The President has a very high regard for our community… Nana Akufo Addo is not a Muslim, but he fights for Muslims like he was one.”

“We all know that for Nana Akufo-Addo, yes, he is not a Muslim, but he is so helpful to Muslims. When I talked to him about the Zongo Development Fund, he said, yes, let us do it.”

“When we talked about bringing Arabic to make sure JSS and SHS exams are written in Arabic in this country, he said yes, let us do it and we are going to do it,” the Vice President said.

Initial Skepticism from Muslim community

Muslim cleric Sheikh Aremeyaw Shaibu, had expressed doubts that Zongo communities around the country will see any significant transformation under the New Patriotic Party (NPP) government.

Following the NPP’s election victory, Sheikh Aremeyaw Shaibu, who also doubles as the Spokesperson for the National Chief Imam, said things in the predominantly Muslim Zongo communities never changed in past times despite promises.

But following the creation of the portfolio to deal with the Zongos and inner cities, the Sheikh said he had cause for optimism

He said he was confident of the sector Minister, Boniface Abubakar Siddique’s ability to deliver on the promises.

Source: Ghana |

The church has significant role in shaping minds to build our nation – Nana Addo

President Nana Addo Dankwa Akufo-Addo says the church must work closely with government to build and ensure national cohesion and development.

He said: “The church has a greater role to play in shaping the minds of the people and redirecting their efforts in transforming and building a nation that stands tall among other nations.”

He said the church also had a duty to help Ghanaians to cope with difficulties they may encounter in their daily lives as they stuck with their faith and beliefs.

President Akufo-Addo said this in a speech read on his behalf by Kofi Dzamesi, the Minister of Chieftaincy and Religious Affairs, at the opening of the 60th Session of the Ministerial and General Council Meeting of the Christ Apostolic Church International (CACI) in Accra.

The five-day meeting, which forms a major part of the activities of the 100 years celebration of the Church, was on the theme: “100 Years of Impacting Our World through Pentecostalism,” and was to thank God for His faithfulness, providence and guidance.

President Akufo-Addo recounted the immense contributions made by the Church in Ghana’s developmental process and said: “As you celebrate your 100 years, we cherish the contributions you have made as a church to our national development.”

Apostle Dr. Stephen Ntow Amoani, the Chairman of the CACI, tasked the Government to find ways of absorbing those engaged in galamsey in order not to create unemployment spillovers and urged Ghanaians to support with resources to create jobs for the youth.

Apostle Dr Amoani said: “The reclamation of destroyed lands is also key if we want to win the fight against galamsey,” and urged the Government to sustain its resolve to nib the galamsey canker in the bud.

“We, as a church, support the President in that direction, and can assure him of our prayers in all other ways to end this menace,” he said.

Apostle Dr. Amoani said the destruction of river bodies and lands constituted unacceptable acts of indiscipline and perpetrators ought to be brought to book.

He called on ministers of the church and other religious bodies to use their pulpits to educate members on the effects of galamsey and the need to fight the canker.

“The galamsey menace is destroying our river and water bodies as well as large tracts of fertile agricultural lands… and our environment. This illegality must, indeed be checked and be fought from all angles to stop the nation wreckers and saboteurs, some of whom are disgracefully aiding foreigners to reap where they have not sown, from destroying our land.”

Apostle Dr Amoani appealed to politicians to think about the welfare of the citizenry instead of their personal gains because “if all Ghanaians will think of what they can do for this country and not what the country can do for them, we shall overcome our current socio-economic difficulties.”

He called on ministers of God to eschew monetizing the Word of God and avoid inordinate materialism and insatiable desire for power and money.

“Let us also re-examine our ways of life and ministry and rededicate ourselves to much more prayer and care for the flock,” he said.

Apostle Amoani expressed satisfaction about the CACI membership-drive that has hit 1,314,017 as well as the improvement in its finances.

He said the church was going to focus more on growth through evangelism, missionary work, and Christian education and strengthen its Prophetic Ministry which had been the bedrock of its faith.

Narrating the history of the CACI and Pentecostalism in Ghana, Apostle Amoani said Apostle Anim, the Founding Patriarch of the Church, learnt about divine healing from the Faith Tabernacle Church in Philadelphia, United States America, through a magazine; “The Sword of the Spirit”.

Apostle Anim then put his faith to work with his wife and his two daughters and formed a prayer group called True Faith Prayer Group in 1917.

Apostle Amoani said the dedicated work of Apostle Anim marked the springing up of many other churches notable amongst them being the Church of Pentecost which was founded by Reverend James Mckeon, who, upon his arrival in Ghana, joined Apostle Anim in 1937 to begin his missionary work.

Fraternal messages were read by representatives of the Ghana Pentecostal Council (GPC), the Church of Pentecost, the Assemblies of God and government appointees including Mr Samuel Atta Akyea, the Minister of Works and Housing.

On behalf of the GPC, Apostle Samuel Yaw Antwi said the Council had accepted to be part of the solution to the galamsey menace and charged the members to preach against it.

He asked the CACI leadership to re-position the church to continue playing its prophetic role in rebuilding the nation as Ghana marked her 60th Anniversary.

The meeting, which was attended by the clergy and the laity from Ghana and abroad, was the highest decision making body of the church held annually to formulate policies, take stock and chart a new course for the progress of the Church.

It is also an occasion to pay glowing tribute to the forebears, particularly Apostle Peter Newman Anim, the father of Pentecostalism in Ghana, who was one time a prayer partner of the first President of Ghana, Osagyefo Dr Kwame Nkrumah.

Source: Ghana | GNA

Donald Trump attacks US media at 100-day Pennsylvania rally

US President Donald Trump has launched a scathing attack on the media during a rally marking 100 days in office.

He told supporters in Pennsylvania that he was keeping “one promise after another”, dismissing criticism as “fake news” by “out of touch” journalists.

Mr Trump decided to skip the White House Correspondents’ Dinner – the first US leader to miss the annual event since Ronald Reagan in 1981.

At the rally in Harrisburg, the president said the media should be given “a big, fat, failing grade” over their coverage of his achievements during his first 100 days and told the cheering crowd he was “thrilled to be more than 100 miles from Washington”.

He quipped that at the same time “a large group of Hollywood actors and Washington media are consoling themselves” at the correspondents’ dinner “that will be very boring”.

Until now, late president Ronald Reagan was the last US leader to miss the dinner, as he was recovering from a gunshot wound in 1981.

Turning to his election pledges, Mr Trump said the first 100 days had been “very exciting and very productive”.

He said he was “delivering every single day” by:

  • Ending “jobs theft” and bringing them back to the US from overseas
  • Easing regulations on energy exploration, including halting a “war on coal”
  • Pulling out of international deals not beneficial to the US, including the Trans-Pacific Partnership

Mr Trump also said the administration of Barack Obama had resulted in “a mess”, stressing that he was ready for “great battles to come and we will win in every case”.

On climate change, Mr Trump said “a big decision” would be taken within the next two weeks.

He earlier described climate change as a hoax, vowing to pull the US out of the Paris Agreement.

Ahead of the speech, tens of thousands took part in protests across the US against the Trump administration’s stance on climate change. The People’s Climate March was timed to coincide with the 100th day of his presidency.

In Washington, the demonstrators marched from the US Capitol to the White House.

Organizers said the they wanted to put the climate debate firmly on the agenda for next year’s midterm elections.

Source: BBC

Ibrahim Mahama sued for not paying workers’ SSNIT contributions

It appears the Chief Executive of Engineers and Planners, Ibrahim Mahama’s troubles, are piling up, as he has now been dragged to the Accra District Court for breaching rules regarding the payment of Social Security and National Insurance Trust (SSNIT) contribution for his employees.

The suit is coming days after he was dragged to the Economic Organised Crime Office (EOCO) to be interrogated on accusations of financial malfeasance, after which he was ordered to pay some GHC 12 million.

The EOCO interrogation had to do with allegations that the brother of former President John Mahama, had issued 44 dud  cheques to the Ghana Revenue Authority (GRA) as payment of duties at the port.

The cheques were to offset debts incurred by two companies – MBG Limited and Holman Brothers – for the clearance of some heavy duty equipment at the Tema Port in 2015. Sources at EOCO said Mr. Mahama, the brother of former President John Mahama, had also been visiting the office on other charges.

The latest suit, filed by government, indicated that “…the Chief Executive Officer, (Executive), Managing Director of Engineers & Planners Company Limited, did fail to pay to the Trust, Social Security Contribution to wit : GHC 668,754. 75”

It said the failure to pay the contribution, constitutes an offence under the above mentioned provisions of the Act.


The suit said “as required by the law, the National Pensions Act of 2008, Act 766, the employer is expected to pay social security on behalf of the employees at the end of every month” but “inspections conducted by officers of the Trust into the pay books of the accused person’s establishment revealed that between the period of February 2015 to July 2015, June 2016, to August 2016, and October 2016, revealed an unpaid Social Security Contributions of GHC 668,754.75.”

The suit further explained that, the amount “attracted a penalty of GHC 387,709.31,  bringing the total indebtedness of the accused to GHC 1,056,464.06 contrary to section 83(1) (d) of the National Pensions Act, 2008 (Acts 766) as amended by section 7 of the National Pensions (Amenment) Act 2014, (Act 883).

The case is expected to be heard today [Saturday] at the circuit court building located at the Supreme Court premises.

Stop witch-hunting Ibrahim Mahama, he’s no criminal – Kofi Adams 

A few days ago, the National Organizer of the opposition National Democratic Congress (NDC), Kofi Adams, had condemned EOCO’s handling of a case involving Ibrahim Mahama, under the New Patriotic Party (NPP) administration.

He said EOCO’s decision to invite Mr. Ibrahim Mahama and interrogate him on accusations of financial malfeasance amounted to witch-hunting.

Source: Ghana |

Leave universities’ Internally Generated Funds alone – Prof Adei to Gov’t

Professor Stephen Adei, Dean of Arts and Sciences, Ashesi University College, has cautioned government against taking the Internally Generated Funds (IGF) from public universities.

He said the IGFs have become the backbone for many universities and “government must be interested in what the IGF is used for and [does not need to take it away] from the universities.”

Prof Adei said this at the 9th Biennial Congress of Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology (KNUST) Alumni at Ho.

The event was held under the theme: “Re-engineering funding of tertiary education in Ghana; The role of the Alumni.”

Prof Adei said quality higher education was expensive and for government to ensure that no child was denied tertiary education, it must increase the student loan to cater for the accommodation and feeding for students.

He said government also ought to stop blanket scholarships for students and target students offering particular courses.

Prof Adei urged the universities to be entrepreneurial because government could not fund tertiary education alone.

He said it is important for them to court their alumni associations because they were the best ambassadors for universities and constituted a bigger source of funding than government.

“In developing economies, universities draw support from alumni associations for mentoring, funding…, and this is what we should be doing,” Prof Adei said.

Source: Ghana |


26,000 workers: NAGRAT welcomes 3-day ultimatum for SSNIT registration

Some public sector workers who were likely to lose their April salaries over non-compliance with a directive to enroll on the SSNIT Biometric System, say they will comply with the extended period granted by the Finance Ministry.

The workers estimated at about 26,000 have since the announcement engaged their employers over the matter.

The National Association of Graduate Teachers (NAGRAT) had threatened to resist the decision intended to deny workers who are not yet on the registration their salaries.

But speaking to Citi Business News on the three-day ultimatum provided by the Finance Ministry, the  President of NAGRAT, Christian Addai Poku said he is optimistic the extension of the registration period would see to the rectification of the errors.

“Now that the registration has been extended I’m sure that every member of NAGRAT will be able to meet the deadline unless an unforeseen circumstance occurs  but under normal circumstances everyone should complete their registration by 3rd may and get their salaries paid by the 15th” he said.

He explained that, the initial challenge which resulted in a number of their members delaying in the registration was due to lack of information about the registration.

“The most difficult thing was for us to get the data so when we got the data the union sent messages to all the people who went out for the registration but now that we have it, we will all comply,” he assured.

Meanwhile affected workers who comply with the latest directive would be expected to receive their April salaries on the 15th of May.